Thursday, June 26, 2014

A Time For Every Season

When I was a young mother, I'd often greet my husband at the door with the words, "Thank goodness you're home! I've needed to go to the bathroom for three hours. Can you watch the kids?" It baffled him that I couldn't just go to the bathroom when I needed to.

But then one day when I'd been out running errands for several hours, he greeted me the same way. "Now I understand," he said. "They just don't stop needing things, not even for one minute!"

Yes, being understood is nice.

I was thinking about that today. Now that my kids are older, I can go to the bathroom any time I want - unless someone else is in there. Their needs are not as insistent and constant. I have more flexibility to do many of the things I couldn't when they were younger, like writing.

Right now, you might feel as though you don't have the time you'd like for writing. You might have young children or you might be working at a demanding job or you might be the caretaker for an ailing parent. Whatever your situation, your schedule might not have room in it for all the things you'd like to do. But as the wheel of time turns, our situations change, and down the road, you might find that you do have more time.

The trick is to use whatever time you have and make the most of it. When I wrote my first two books, I was writing during my children's nap time. Book three was written late at night because the older children weren't taking naps anymore. Then I was able to start writing during the day. Today, because my children have grown up with a mother who writes, they understand my schedule and are (mostly) pretty respectful of it.

Make each moment count, knowing that this phase of your life won't last forever. And then make the next phase count as well. There is a time for every season, and the magic happens when you make the time within the seasons of your life.

4 comments:

Canda said...

Great post, Tristi. We write at night because my co-author has little kids and I work all day. Night seems to work right now. Some days even that is hard to pull off. We have to give ourselves leeway to only write a few minutes if life gets all tangled with time. But even a few minutes moves us along with our goals.

Donna K. Weaver said...

I agree. Great suggestions. We need to prioritize what we want.

The Smith Family said...
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The Smith Family said...

Just what I needed to hear right now! Thank you for your insight and wisdom!